Performance Anxiety aka The Hamster Syndrome
Updated: Jun 15, 2021
WHAT EXCATLY IS THE HAMSTER SYNDROME?
I use the term “Hamster Syndrome” to describe the thought pattern that causes performance anxiety. Almost every day I have conversations about the deadly mind cycles that cause men to believe certain things about their sexual performance.
THE BEGINNING OF THE HAMSTER SYNDROME
This a day by day account of the thought patterns that start the dreaded cycle of running on the Hamster Syndrome. It may stupid, inane and trite - but once you start running on this toxic thought pattern it simply takes over and you end up not being able to simply jump off and move on.
“I think I have a problem getting or staying hard.”
Or it starts like this: I think I ejaculate too quickly.”
Or it starts like this:
“I am worried that I am not lasting long enough.”
You get the drift of where this is going? If you sit down and think about fear for example. What is fear? It certainly is not a tangible concept. An emotion? A feeling? A Premonition? However you would describe it, fear is a mental state of mind. Let us say that you are afraid of spiders. As you go through your life you will say it over and over again.
“I am afraid of spiders – snakes are okay, but spiders? No chance”
So every time you say it you reinforce your concept over and over again until you eventually simply believe without a question of doubt that you are afraid of spiders. I am sure there is most likely a complicated psychiatric term for it, however; I call it the “Hamster Syndrome” as it is a thought pattern, about as useless as a hamster forever running on its wheel and never getting itself anywhere, nor anything except – exhaustion.
That is the “Hamster Syndrome” at work.
HAMSTER LAND IN TWO CRAZY NUT SHELLS
If you look at the Image of the cute little hamster above long enough you may begin to see it in a different light: Look at the hypnotic stare going on – it is clearly completely obsessed with getting medieval with its biscuit. Then, it will no doubt to climb upon it’s miserable little wheel and run around with gay abandon in crazy circles for hours...
LET'S COMPARE AN ADULT MAN TO THE CRAZY HAMSTER:
STEP ONE: So he is lounging around and he casually wonders if he was a hit or miss last time he had sex? Then he thinks maybe he is not such a rock-hard-star? His mind drifts off to his youth when he was such a deadly stud, but now – sadly his life is changing; age and time are extracting hard tolls and making him finish long before he was really wanted to.
STEP TWO: That night he gets lucky, but he finds himself getting hard, but not keeping it up as long as he wanted to, its okay – but not mind blowing.
STEP THREE: Driving to work he thinks to himself; I really did not get hard enough last night. Wonders why he did not get as hard he usually does?
STEP FOUR: During that entire day at work the thought randomly pops into his mind that he did not get hard enough last night.
STEP FIVE: Sitting in the afternoon traffic he starts wondering if he will get hard enough the next time he has sex?
DAY TWO, THREE AND FOUR: Repeat steps three, four and five.
DAY FIVE: Repeat step two.
DAY SIX, SEVEN, EIGHT, NINE AND TEN: Repeat steps three, four and five...
… AND SO ON TO INFINITY . . .
He may occasionally still have a killer erection and perform like a porn star. But as the days morph into months and years, eventually his performance will wither and he will be the next truly ensconced resident in the merry, yet mad, metropolis of Hamster Land. A man who could have had perfectly normal sex life, barring medical conditions, struck down by a mere thought pattern.
HAMSTER LAND IN SOUND BYTE NUTSHELLS
WHEN YOU THINK SOMETHING ABOUT YOURSELF – IT WILL BECOME YOUR REALITY! Ariana
If you think you you are struggling to become erect or stay erect- then pretty soon you will really start struggling to get hard and next thing you know you will be yet another man suffering from erectile dysfunction.
I THINK – THEREFORE I AM - Descartes
I now tell clients who contact me for an appointment for treating Premature Ejaculation to try their very best to put all thoughts about coming too quickly right out of their minds. Do not envisage it, do not utter the words, do not conjure up conspiracy theories, do not over think it, do not wonder why and do not conclude a result.
WHETHER YOU THINK YOU ARE POTENT, OR YOU THINK YOU ARE IMPOTENT – YOU ARE RIGHT! Ariana
How I learnt this lesson: A man made an appointment two weeks in advance and explained that he suffered from performance anxiety. He duly arrived all the way from the UK.
While doing the massage I explained the techniques he could use to improve his erection.
All was going well until the moment he said:
“You remember I told you; I suffered from performance anxiety? “That was the end of it. No matter my considerable skills and techniques to raise the dead it was soo over, right there – nothing would work after that. He was thinking about it so intently that he was simply believing it – just like a poor bugger who is afraid of spiders.
BREAKING DEBILITATING THOUGHT PATTERNS OF FEAR
To change the thought patterns, first decide that this ain't Vegas. With reference to the famous slogan:
“What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas!”
(Devised for the City of Las Vegas By Ad Agency R&R Partners.)
You have to take control, admit there is a problem and ask for help. This problem will be difficult to figure out if just ignore it or keep it to your self, while hoping it will go away all by itself – because it will not.
Firstly: Have a medical check up to ensure that you are physically well.
Secondly: Make the decision to change things. Try re-focus your mind on improving your lifestyle, loose the extra fat weighing you down; try Banting or the 16/8 diet. Abstain from alcohol – but if you must then choose Tequila as it is brewed from cacti so not as fattening as brandy, whisky, vodka or gin. The point is not to occupy your mind with doubt, rather re-focus on things you can do to make you happier and healthier. Speak to people who can help you make lifestyle improvements; whether it is a holistic healer, a cannabis oil or yoga guru, explore options with an open mind.
ONLY TWO WAYS TO CHANGE HABITS
There are only two ways to change habits:
HOW CAN HELP YOU?
I am a practical thinker and believe in straight forward, natural therapies. I am unsure whether hypnosis will be of any use in treating performance anxiety. What I do know is training for improving performance works and repeating your training over and over and again eventually changes your behavior and results in performance excellence. In an appointment I show you how to train to get results,
© Ariana 2017
The image of the adorable, obsessive biscuit killing machine hamster is by courtesy of Lichtpuenktchen. Man on the hamster wheel image supplied by 3dman_eu