Updated: Sep 17
What is The Meaning Of Premature Ejaculation?
Premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunctions should not be confused. Premature ejaculation is ejaculating within 2 minutes, whereas erectile dysfunction is inability to reach or maintain an erection.
Reasons For Being Quick
The most common reason for being quick is that a man has simply got himself into the habit of being quick. It starts off either in the teenage years or with a change in patterns of sexual activity for example after a break up or a new partner.
A common medical reason is an enlarged prostate. As men age their prostate glands keep on enlarging, the prosses causes an increase of pressure on the urethra and bladder that lead to an explosion of semen. The first sign of an enlarging prostate is frequent urination.
But let us first examine:
What is Normal?
Firstly what is normal? Research shows that the average time for a man to ejaculate while having vaginal sex is SEVEN minutes from penetration.
Taking personal experience and gossip among girlfriends into account - I think;
seven minutes can safely be taken as an average barometer. However, mainstream media, anecdotes, myth and an over abundance - or rather the never ending barrage of porn all urge men to last longer at all costs.
So then what is the actual answer to the question: What is the meaning of premature ejaculation? The truth is any ejaculation that occurs in under two minutes is considered to be sever premature ejaculation. Once again taking female opinion into account; most women, once they achieved their own orgasm would be quite happy with anywhere between three to nine minutes.
The good news is that acquired and Habitual PE can be treated: All it takes is an understanding of what is causing your problem, a bit of effort and for you to make the decision that you will learn to control your ejaculation – But what sort of PE do you have?
Causes of Premature Ejaculation
There are TWO types of premature ejaculation each caused by either medical conditions or habitual behaviour:
Medical Conditions That Cause Premature Ejaculation
Congenital PE is caused by hormone deficiency, chemical imbalance, neurotransmitter abnormalities and prostate .
These conditions can be treated with drugs like Dapoxetine which is an antidepressant and a short acting serotonin re-uptake inhibitor. The best person to consult would be a Urologist.
Medical PE can be caused by infection of the prostate or urethra. These conditions are treated with antibiotics the best person to consult would be your GP, who may even prescribe antibiotics.
Habits That Cause Premature Ejaculation
This type is the more common type of PE – luckily; because it is a habit, habits can be “un-learnt”!
Habitual PE usually has an onset in teenage years when boys start to experiment with their sex organs and masturbation is a big part of the experiment.
However, they mostly masturbate on the sly and so do it as quickly as they can in the shower or the shed. Sadly they are also hounded at home to:
“Not take forever in the bathroom!” Thus, unknowingly and in complete innocence they establish a hard to break – if left untreated – life long habit.
Performance Anxiety That Cause Premature Ejaculation
Sometimes my clients tell me they have just met a new partner and they are now being too quick.
Any new sexual behaviour, whether it is a new relationship, loss of a regular partner or lack of sexual activity can influence your sexual performance.
Treatment Of Premature Ejaculation
My field of expertise is helping you to learn ejaculation control and solve you PE naturally and for good.
The best way to learn is to set a goal.
The goal is to train yourself to reach male multiple orgasm.
I have tried and tested THREE techniques to use while training:
The first two are natural, powerful, yet simple ways to control ejaculation while having sex. The last is the manual technique is “edging” that is very specifically used to block ejaculation when training for male multiple orgasm.
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